Thursday, March 19, 2009

Common Threads

I remember my dad this way.


I'm not sure how many nearly identical pictures there are of him like this, but I know there are a lot.


I sit wiping away my tears as I look at this. It is one of those cruel moments where his absence weighs so heavily on me that it becomes hard to breath, where his death seems so unnecessary, so cruel, and as if my tiny family is cheated out of the happiness and experiences that my dad's presence would have brought to our Little One.

My dad loved babies. Babies loved him. I always thought that this spoke volumes about the true character and spirit of my dad, and I believe this to be true of all men. It was, in fact, this very quality that took me from in-like to completely smitten with Brandon. I cherish this for so many reasons. Its like my dad and Brandon are kindred in this way. It makes me think, more than ever, that my dad had a little something to do with B and I finding each other. It was like he knew that since he wouldn't be here to love his grand babies with a tenderness I can never achieve so he found for me a man who possessed the same qualities he had to love our babies the way they would need it.

I will always remember my dad this way....I eagerly wait to see my husband this way.

So, today my love for my dad and Brandon have a common thread. Their fatherly qualities are so similar in such beautiful ways, it is beyond touching. Their abilities to love are limitless.

I am so very blessed.

10 comments:

-Ryan- said...

Julie...it was so good to hear from you. Thank you for visiting my little guy while you were in Richfield.
This was a touching post about your dad...I too remember him like that...he was always a lot of fun and loved to be around little ones. I'll never forget all the fun BBQ we had at your house when we were little, with out fail, your dad would always start a huge water fight with everyone. He was a great man, and he loved you guys so much. I am so sorry that you have had to face such a difficult loss.
How is Katie? Does she have a blog? I would love to get in touch with her somehow. Maybe you could email me her email address:
ncnataliecall@gmail.com

Thanks again for getting in touch. You look beautiful as always.

Haley said...

Him and Spud have bonded and I am sure he is teaching Spud some tricks before his arrival. I am sure he has kissed his feet and popped his toes, fed him mustard and held him with sorrow in his eyes knowing he wouldn't get to do these things down here. But I think as you begin this new adventure you will feel Dad around in ways you haven't before. SDLY

Lindsey said...

Such a beautiful post, hun, and it made me think of when your dad & mom used to take my twin sister's to church to give my parents a break. They truly adored him and I'm sure he's gotta be keeping an eye on Kelsey still...I love you bunches and I'm so happy for you that you found B who has some amazing qualities, similar to your dad. Love you!

Cristi said...

Can I just say that this post touched me? And you know why. I feel the SAME way. Love you!

M. Owen said...

I know in my heart that Heavenly Father's hand is in our lives, he is aware, I am sure that he is letting your dad love on Spud befor we get to.
P.S. I am not calling him Spud after he gets here!!!!! Sorry Kate!

kim and ned said...

I always loved your dad. He had this amazing ability to make you feel loved instantly. Not many people can do that. I have this memory of him driving us somewhere and feeling so important to him. You're lucky to have had such a great dad.

Joan said...

I don't visit your blog very often, but was thinking about you today. Your beautiful description of the miracle that is happening to you brought me to tears. Then I read about you friend Mary. She sounds like an amazing lady and I'm glad you have her in your life. Then, I paged down and came upon your beautiful dad and of course, I am shedding tears again. I am very thankful that you have found someone that you love so much and who loves you in the same way. Your dad would have loved him. Take very good care of yourself and always remember how much we love you. I will visit more often.

Just Us said...

He is surely teaching some good things to spud. He always made sure to let me know that he cared for me and my kids. I know that he will do this for you in a bigger and better way. SDLY

ps...has anyone considered that spud is a girl. I think that
SPUD = GIRL.

Kirk said...

Thanks for writing this. I love this picture of your dad.

Kirk

Kacey! said...

I also remember your dad, how everytime he seen me he would lift me up to the sky....he always made me feel so good....back in the day when all of our families would get together!